I didn’t feel like I was truly a man until I left my cubicle behind, struck out on my own, and started working for myself. Once my wife and I were 100% reliant on my ability to hustle and make ends meet, I felt like I had gone through a rite of passage that transformed me into a man.
Maybe it was that I felt like I could control the course and direction of my own destiny. I had become truly self-reliant for the first time in my life.
But the reason I was able to succeed was not simply because of my own independent will. It was because I had a brotherhood that was also working to create their own vocations on their own terms. These men helped lift me up, believe in me, and made me stronger than I was standing alone.
And while online connections are great, I realized I was yearning for something offline and more personal. I wanted to be able to call the guys to a pickup game of basketball in the park or go on a hike in the woods without planning it out a month in advance.
I wanted real brotherhood, so I decided to do something about it.
There’s an old saying that goes, “When you’re sick and tired of being sick and tired, you’ll finally do something about it.”
I got sick and tired of complaining about a lack of brotherhood when there were so many awesome men around me.
So I gathered the email addresses of nine local guys and asked them a simple question:
“Would you be interested in meeting up with other awesome men once a month to do cool things?”
The overwhelming response was, “Hell yes.” I guess I wasn’t the only one that needed something like this.
So far we’ve played glow-in-the-dark miniature golf, sat and drank mind-expanding tea (yes, tea can get you high, believe it or not), and have conquered fears together. We use our gatherings as an excuse to bond and do fun, bucket-list type stuff together.
You don’t need blood-brother rituals, matching tattoos, or secret handshakes to create a brotherhood (not that any of those things aren’t cool).
All you need is initiative and the right men.
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